Dystopia Fetishism and the Fall of #Solidarity

Two weeks ago, I sat in this same warm office, look­ing out at the cold world out­side. And this is what I saw. I saw Lau­rie Penny’s Spi­der Jerusalem-esque piece for the New States­man, cov­er­ing the stu­dent riots, and I saw Wik­ileaks prepar­ing to dump 250,000 clas­si­fied US Embassy cables on the world. It all felt like a sud­den rush towards the hor­rid, glo­ri­ous dystopia that as a British cit­i­zen I am required to fetishise. (c.f. H.G. Wells, George Orwell, John Wyn­d­ham et al.)

One of those retains the abil­ity to stir up more trou­ble. The other, I fear, is now a lost cause.

Being approx­i­mately a social­ist, and hav­ing voted for the Lib­eral Democ­rats as I felt they were the only almost-credible party of the Left, I was almost warmed by the scale of the protests — not only were the Lib Dems’s bro­ken elec­tion promises not being taken lightly, but only six months in to a gov­ern­ment of the centre-Right, we were already see­ing the peo­ple up in arms.

The vio­lence involved in some of those protests, of which I of course do not approve, was referred to in the media at the time as being the actions of a “hard core” of pro­test­ers intent on stir­ring up trou­ble. The reac­tion of the pro­test­ers to that was often along the lines of “no, we all feel that strongly!”.

I won­der if they’ll be say­ing that this morning.

Last night, as it became appar­ent that the protests were inef­fec­tive at con­vinc­ing more than half of the Lib Dems to vote against the pro­posal, some pro­test­ers attacked a car car­ry­ing the Prince of Wales and the Duchess of Corn­wall. Nat­u­rally, this made the front page of every news­pa­per in the coun­try (Guardian, Inde­pen­dent, Tele­graph, Mail, Sun, Mir­ror, nice pay­wall there, Times).

The Twit­ter hash­tag #sol­i­dar­ity has been used by the pro­test­ers and their sup­port­ers for a while now — I do hope some of that sol­i­dar­ity remains. But aside from amongst stu­dents, schoolkids and twenty-somethings who still fondly remem­ber their uni­ver­sity days, I sus­pect that sol­i­dar­ity just took a mas­sive hit.

The tabloid press was never going to be kind to stu­dent protests, but if they were qui­etly depriv­ing them of col­umn space before, by god they are not any more. The attack on Prince Charles’ car last night was one of the most impres­sive acts of shoot­ing one­self in the foot I have ever seen.

My great­est fear over the whole mat­ter, though, is the effect it has had on the young — the peo­ple whose edu­ca­tion was at stake. What have they learned over the last few weeks?

That break­ing into Mill­bank Tower, that light­ing fires and putting bricks through win­dows, that spray­paint­ing walls and break­ing down doors, that being ket­tled by riot police and attack­ing the Royal Fam­ily, isn’t enough. It’s not changed the minds of more than a dozen peo­ple inside the House of Com­mons, maybe none at all.

So what’s left to do? Give up hope and aban­don what mea­gre trust remains in our politi­cians, hop­ing that by the time the pro­test­ers reach mid­dle age they’re elec­table and their opin­ions haven’t changed? Or protest harder, get ket­tled more viciously, dream­ing of glo­ri­ous rev­o­lu­tion while all around the coun­try turns against them?

Dystopia is a great thing to expe­ri­ence for two hours of a film or two hun­dred pages of a book. But when you have to live in it, two weeks is about the point at which it stops being fun.

Adrift in Time

As Mark pointed out to me, it’s prob­a­bly rather strange to pick for your Best Man some­one who you’ve seen only three times in as many years. But although some small part of my brain insists that some time has passed since I left uni­ver­sity, it’s eas­ily over­ruled by the rest.

I mean, grad­u­a­tion was about four weeks ago, right? And Joseph’s about three weeks old. Wait, what? Three years? Does not compute.

In that time I’ve made some friends, it’s true — and don’t get me wrong, they are good friends — but see­ing some­one once a week, or once a month, just doesn’t reg­is­ter in my brain as strongly as do those I lived with, even though the time I lived with them was long ago.

To my shame I’ve spo­ken to those Uni­ver­sity friends less and less as time has gone on. The major­ity I don’t even reg­u­larly IM any­more — we’ve become Twit­ter friends, Face­book friends, peo­ple who com­ment on each oth­ers’ blogs. I feel a strange kind of buzz talk­ing to any of them, even just over IM, but yet I barely do it. I bash out a 140-character reply to some tweet of theirs, and my need for con­tact with my best friends is sated for another few hours. Nor­mally I don’t feel too guilty about that, but some­times it hits me that I’ve been doing that for four long years, and then, as now, I realise just how bad that is.

So yes, it’s really bloody strange that what I think of as my best friends, and my Best Man-to-be among them, are really those friends that I talk to the least of all. But hav­ing iso­lated the cause of that as my own reluc­tance to start instant mes­sen­ger chats, at least I have some­thing I can work on.

Keeping in Touch

I guess it’s funny who you do and who you don’t stay in touch with. After all this time I’m still par­ty­ing with peo­ple whose time at Uni didn’t even inter­sect with mine, but yet I see my best friends maybe once a year at most. And of the three peo­ple I spent my time at Uni devel­op­ing crushes on? I haven’t spo­ken to two of them since 2006.

Momentary Reminiscence

Four years ago, what dom­i­nated my mind most was that I was run­ning out of time. The end of my time at Uni­ver­sity loomed large in front of me. I didn’t have a job to go to, my final year project was dead in the water and my rela­tion­ship was painfully long-distance, but those weren’t the most weighty issues. I was trou­bled far more by the fact that three months from then, I’d be leav­ing the city that defined my tran­si­tion from child­hood to adult­hood, los­ing that con­stant con­tact with friends that defines Uni­ver­sity life.

And come June, the inevitable hap­pened, and off we all went.

There’s a lot I don’t miss about that time — the pres­sure of course­work and exams, the phone calls every night until my head felt ready to burst, the hav­ing very lit­tle money — but there’s one thing I really, really do.

I miss the drama.

At the time, I was pretty con­flicted about the giant morass of drama that got dropped on us in what was my third year — I hated it, but it was almost enjoy­able in a weird ironic sort of way. And now I miss it.

I miss the burn­ing feel­ing and the anguish of devel­op­ing crushes on com­pletely inap­pro­pri­ate peo­ple. I miss all the knowl­edge of other people’s lives that comes from being so reg­u­larly in con­tact with them. I miss try­ing to fix other people’s bad sit­u­a­tions, I miss suc­ceed­ing, and I miss fail­ing. I miss hav­ing break­fast at KFC, though only two peo­ple know why. I miss bar­ing the con­tents of our hearts until deep into the night. I miss the secrets and the gos­sip. I miss friends becom­ing lovers, and I miss friends becom­ing ene­mies. I miss find­ing the right things to say to the right peo­ple, and I miss fail­ing at that too. I miss falling in love for the first time.

None of that is com­ing back, and per­haps I should be glad of that. After all, I just con­fessed to hat­ing it. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, after all (or was it Absinthe?), so it’s prob­a­bly for the best that it’s all safely con­fined to the past. But once every so often, just like now, I’ll rem­i­nisce about those times long ago.